A Surprising Encounter at 13
Launched My Success Quest!
"The greatest battle on the journey to success, is the battlefield in our minds.
Conquer this and you become unstoppable" Carmen Wilde
AVERAGE DOESN'T DO IT
When determination meets focus, anything’s possible!
The smartest way to learn how to achieve success, is to model successful people, and who better to learn from than a seasoned executive and successful entrepreneur who has walked the path to success… from humble beginnings?
Carmen Wilde is a dynamic and savvy entrepreneur whose inspiring journey to success stands testimony to her depth of knowledge, practical experience, and invaluable insight into what it takes to achieve breakthrough business results.
Success is not for the lucky few… it’s for those with the focus and determination to do what it takes to conquer their own shortcomings and go the distance. Simply put, success is not for sissies, and for a woman determined to succeed in a male dominated world, even greater courage, resourcefulness, ingenuity, tenacity, and resilience is required.
Yet, Carmen was neither daunted nor hindered by the challenge ahead, she never cried ‘victim’ and refused to pander to the pessimism of naysayers. She was determined to succeed on equal terms to her male counterparts… and she did!
By age 30, Carmen was an executive division head for a multi-billion-dollar organization and a self-made millionaire. Today she’s a “Wildely” successful entrepreneur with thriving businesses in three countries and hailed by her coaching clients as “The Breakthru Guru”.
I am proud and privileged to call Carmen Wilde my business partner and most treasured friend!
Written by Gary Wilde
BEHIND THE SCENES
When she’s not coaching or managing her businesses, you’ll find Carmen reading, running or immersed in one of her creative interests like architecture or photography. But her bliss is the adventure of travel… modern cities for their unique buzz, exotic island locations for some R&R, or escaping into the wilderness of Africa to reconnect with nature. Oh, and one last thing… if it’s fast, high or hair-raising, she’s probably the one in the front seat!
MY QUEST FOR SUCCESS
A Childhood encounter launched my success quest
As a child, life was hard. From age five, while other children were playing, I was already doing chores around the house and looking after my two year old twin brother and sister. While there was an abundance of love in our home, for our family and surrounding community, financial struggle was the norm. Before reaching my teens, I was already searching for signs that it was possible to break away from financial struggle and achieve financial freedom.
Shortly after my 13th birthday, a school friend invited me to spend the day with her at her parent’s plush home. I was dazzled by their majestic home the moment I arrived, bewildered that people live in such comfort and luxury… right down to the dreamy swimming pool with a slide that passed through a waterfall!
That night, I asked her if her father came from a wealthy family, “No, Dad's family was actually very poor, which he’s constantly reminding me of” she said, rolling her eyes. She had no idea how much her reply was music to my searching mind. It was all I needed to know… If her father grew up poor but turned his fate around, then I could do the same!
Discovering success secrets… the hard way
My quest for success has not been an easy ride. The ‘road less travelled’ can get pretty bumpy and has tested and challenged me in ways I could never have anticipated. The toughest part to breaking through a family history of financial struggle, wasn’t about mastering the outer world, it was about mastering the battlefield raging in my own mind… learning to get out of my own way, embrace and celebrate adversity and failure and find the strength to push through even the darkest moments of disappointment, despair and even terror.
I’ve had my heart broken by my first love after 18 years in a relationship I never imagined would end. I’ve stared death in the face down the barrel of a gun when six armed robbers invaded my dream home only six days after moving in. I’ve experienced devastating financial losses at the hand of business partners I trusted… yet, through these and many other challenging experiences, I’ve gained invaluable gems of wisdom and developed agility and resourcefulness that’s enabled me to break through and achieve so many of the lofty goals I set for myself that few believed possible.
Personal quest to passionate purpose
I could never have imagined that my personal quest for success would guide me deftly to the gateway of my highest purpose in this life. On this journey I discovered my greatest passion, which is supporting others in breaking through success obstacles to achieve the success they dream of. Through my experiences and the gems I’ve acquired on the way, I’ve helped hundreds of executives and entrepreneurs achieve breakthrough business results… and I plan to help hundreds of thousands more business leaders I call A.D.D i.e.
'Average Doesn't Do-it' as there’s no greater feeling than witnessing what becomes possible when driven leaders have the tools to unleash their highest potential.
Success is not a destination… it’s a way of life!
Maybe the most profound realization through the years on my ‘quest for success’, is that the path to success has no destination… it’s a way of life, a state of mind and being, an incredible journey of endless growth and discovery. It’s a rich and rewarding adventure filled with fascinating characters, challenging puzzles, epic failures, and heart pounding victories. Yet, despite the blinding pace and occasional turbulence, there’s an indescribable beauty that permeates the canvas of my life… an indelible sense of inner peace as well as a profound sense of gratitude for every experience, encounter and life lesson, which is worth more than all the material wealth I’ve amassed, because it’s a part of me, forever.
Q & A WITH CARMEN
Why did you choose business & executive coaching and consulting as a profession?
It chose me…I started out my career in the field of Clinical Psychology but my disappointment with the reality of what it entailed vs the ideal I had in my mind led me onto a corporate path to learn as much as I could about business fast. The second last role I had in the corporate world introduced me to the joy of teaching and in my final role I was immersed in the field of high-performance leadership and this is where I discovered my love for this field of study which later led me into business coaching.
What do you love about your line of work?
I love the:
- Thrill of transforming challenges into opportunities.
- Privilege I have to work with successful people to support them in taking their businesses to the next level of success.
- Impact my work has beyond business to every area of my client's lives.
- Joy of knowing my client's are set for success, armed with a progressive toolkit that will help them get extraordinary results year in and year out.
- Fulfillment of knowing that every client I work with has a ripple impact on the lives of so many others.
What did you love about the corporate world?
- Big budgets!
- Access to many specialized resources.
- The fertile learning ground in so many different areas of business.
- Exposure to bigger than life strategizing and brilliant business minds that left a huge impression on me and has served me every single day in my own businesses.
- The thrill of launching new products every year and competing against the best of the best.
- Traveling to some of the world's most spectacular destinations... free of charge.
What do you enjoy about being an entrepreneur?
- Freedom to dream up anything and implement it.
- The thrill of setting ridiculous targets and beating them.
- The challenge to constantly stay relevant and to keep delivering value to clients which requires constant innovation.
- The ability to have a massive impact on so many lives.
- That no day is ever the same.
- The financial freedom it makes possible.
What's the biggest challenge you've had to overcome?
While I've experienced many tough challenges over the last 20 years... the single biggest challenge I've had to overcome was me getting in my own way.
In my 20's, I did pretty well for myself yet I was not maximizing my full potential. It was only after my divorce that I realized the extent to which I was hiding the real me from the world. I'd donned facades to present to the world the part of me that measured up to other people's expectations and in the process I lost sight of who I truly was.
The blessing in my divorce was the discovery of the true me and a total re-invention of self. This led to me becoming a more colorful personality where there was only black and white before. I adopted a more outgoing and sociable stance instead of keeping to myself. I gave up being pedantic and donned a more spontaneous approach to life and stepped into the confident, real me rather than being in hiding and resenting it.
I now live a life that is congruent with everything I value which has given me the freedom to be the real me everyday. This has made life much simpler and so much more fulfilling and fun.
What is the most important thing you believe has contributed to you being a Wilde Success?
A ferocious determination to find a way...to not give into the dogmas of society but to find solutions that shatter what other's think is impossible.
My determination helps me stay in the game longer than others and win the game more often than not.
When you're not working, what do you love doing?
I love watching movies, reading, running, water activities or immersing myself in one of my creative interests like architecture or nature photography.
But my bliss is the adventure of travel... modern cities for their unique buzz, or exotic locations for some R&R, or escaping into the wilderness of Africa to reconnect with nature. Oh, and if it's fast, high, adrenaline inducing or hair-raising, I'm the one in the front seat!
Who has had the most impact on you from a business perspective?
Adrian Gore, CEO of Discovery has undeniably had the greatest impact on how I think about business. He's an astute and innovative businessman with incredibly high standards and is always raising the bar.
He fearlessly tackles tough challenges while always being mindful of upholding the company values and even though he has a jam packed schedule, in the time you have with him, he's completely present and shows keen interest in your work and progress. He's hugely inspirational and has a great sense of humor. He built Discovery from the ground up to the inspiring success story it is today.
What would people you know find surprising about you as a teenager?
I was quiet, shy and preferred to study rather than have fun (somewhat a nerd)
If you could possess one super human power what would it be?
I'd love to go into the future to see the impact of decisions and actions and use the information to come back and inspire different decisions and actions to enable winning outcomes.
What is your biggest fear?
Loss of time.
That I do not achieve everything I've set out to do in the time given to me.
What are the main lessons you've learnt in life?
- Honor yourself above all things. It's much harder to realize your full potential when you're not congruent with your true self.
- Challenges are signposts showing us what needs to change or what we still need to learn and are often the re-calibration required to get us back on track to reach our goals.
- Failure is just feedback.
- If you follow the masses, expect to live like the masses. To be exceptional requires you graduate from the norm and do what others do not have the courage to do.
- Every decision you make has an impact on the tapestry of your life, choose wisely.
If you could be an animal / bird, what would you choose to be and why?
An eagle, to revel in the absolute freedom of soaring above the world and seeing it from an unlimited perspective.
Teach me something of value in the next 2 minutes?
If there is anything standing in your way of success, you're just a decision away from getting what you want.
We tend to deliberate the 'how to' so much that we talk ourselves out of making the very decision that would move us away from a stuck state and towards taking the required action to achieve what we want.
If things are not as you want them to be, make the decision you've been putting off and watch the momentum that comes with having made the decision.
What are you known for?
Helping my clients break through success barriers and equipping them with cutting edge insights and tools, to achieve a whole new level of success.